This school year, I will have a 1st grader and a 3rd grader. (How is that possible?) I saw so much growth last year and expect the same for the upcoming year.
New seasons and school years always bring reflections in our house. What new chores are they ready to take on? How will their emotional and physical needs change this year? Even simple things like letting them go into the bathroom by themselves is a big deal, because anyone with a three-year-old knows this is a learned skill!
I can let them stay in the car (with the air on) if I need to run in Publix to pick up a couple of things where I would not have done this last summer. It’s about building a foundation of trust. For example, I let Will stay home by himself while I picked Wyatt up from a nearby summer camp. I definitely drove faster that day. 🙂 But it turned out fine! Will was in the same place I left him. My job is to keep them safe and secure, but also teach them what freedom is like a little bit at a time when it is age appropriate.
All these things seem minimal, easy. But they are important milestones that will eventually get them to be independent adults. One day, my boys will drive cars, get married, and have children of their own…but for now, picking out clothes that match is a mountain that needs to be conquered! In fact, we worked on our “morning chores” list today. The picture below is what Will & Wyatt are responsible for every morning. Will came up with the list, and he and his brother will be expected to follow it. Hopefully, this means less badgering from me!
We had such a good summer. We saw loads of family, took a few short trips to Tennessee, Alabama, and South Carolina, enjoyed lazy beach days, ate tons of ice cream, swam, went to various summer camps, and just spent time together. It was perfect. Wyatt also learned how to do a proper belly flop into the pool!
August Activities at Sawgrass
Looking ahead, I’m excited to meet their teachers and see what’s in store. Also, I’m looking forward to all the fun activities in August at the club.
Here’s a short list of things to sign up for this month:
Friday, August 9th 6pm – Back to School Triples – Head over to the courts for Triples! Play from 6-7, then enjoy pizza and beer after. $30++ Sign up on Foretees.
Monday, August 12th 9am – Bloody’s and “Momosas” – Join us at Topsider for $5 Bloody Marys, $5 Mimosas, and $3 biscuits to celebrate the kids going back to school! Call the concierge to sign up.
Thursday, August 15th 6:30-8:30 – Sawgrass Women’s Club Wine tasting – Join the Next Gen group as we celebrate the kids going back to school by getting together for a wine tasting! Cost is $20++ Sign up by calling the concierge. You can charge this to your member account, or if you are a member of the Women’s Club but not the country club, checks can be sent to Brittany Darling made out to the Sawgrass Women’s Club.
Friday August 30th 6-9pm – 80’s Night at the Beach Club – Join us for a blast from the past evening at our 80’s party. We will feature a DJ & dance floor as well as food stations. Cost is $36++ Sign up on Foretees. Costumes encouraged!
Saturday, August 31st 6-10pm – St. Augustine Pub Crawl – Come to St. Augustine and discover new bars and eateries! Ride down on a bus with Perry and other members! The bus leaves at 6pm and returns at 10pm. Cost is $36++ Sign up on Foretees!
For you moms with kids entering Kindergarten
Oh, this is a sweet time. I have been in your shoes twice, and it was hard both times. They go in so innocent and wild, and they come out reading and knowing words you wished they didn’t. It’s a big adjustment for them, and it’s a big adjustment for us too. When my oldest started school, I had anxiety about everything…I didn’t know how the car line worked, I was unsure about how to talk to his teacher, I didn’t know if he would eat lunch, I didn’t know how tired he would be, and I didn’t grasp how much he would learn and grow socially. But we learned together. I learned what he would eat in his lunch, what his teacher expected, and that car line is a science all of its own. If you drive through car line, you know what I mean!
I learned most of all that it was a season of letting go. There will be days where they fall and skin their little knee and someone else will give them a bandaid and comfort them. Someone else will give them a set of rules to follow and will hold them accountable. Someone else will tell them they can do what they set their mind to do. Others will encourage them and help them, but still others will hurt their feelings and be tough to get along with. And as a mom, this is hard. The mama bear comes out and wants to pummel whatever gets in their way. There’s certainly a time for that, but most of the time, it’s conversations about coping skills and teaching them that the world isn’t always kind but they have the tools to do something about it.
For you moms with kids starting middle school or high school, I’ve got nothing. Haha! I’m not there yet, but I imagine it’s even more letting go, more attitude, and even more potential for accomplishment.
Good luck moms, and hopefully I’ll see you around Sawgrass in August!